Your student’s transition in college is like a roller coaster … how to help them on the ride of their life … part two Culture Shock Phase
In the Sept. 2 parent blog post, you were introduced to the concept of the W-Curve. The W-Curve is a model that tracts students transition to college. We first discussed the Honeymoon Phase, which happens around the beginning of the school year. The next phase they reach is called the Culture Shock Phase, which begins to surface 6-8 weeks into their transition.
Eventually the newness and the excitement of college life wears thin and the students find themselves in a reality check. They no longer have the comforts of home, and they have to make some big adjustments with new people (having a roommate, sharing a bathroom, having lots of neighbors, etc). This process can be fun but also draining on students who are trying to adjust socially as well as academically.
Zeller and Mosier (1993) “The unfamiliar territory of the college classroom also creates dissonance. … Lecture classes, unclear guidelines for note taking and studying, and unfamiliar … faculty work together to produce potential difficulties … Routine tasks that were taken for granted become problematic chares. Where to go shopping, get a haircut, or receive medical attention can create feelings of frustration.”
"Homesickness may begin to be an issue, and some students will try to keep a tight grip on their homes (going home on weekends, Text-ing friends from home constantly, hanging up lots of pictures of friends, family, significant others, etc.) Students are also going through a process of becoming self-reliant, establishing a unique identity, and accepting the responsibilities for their own actions."
"The college freshman has many personal issues to deal with in addition to adjusting to college academic expectations; reworking relationships with parents, creating new social circles, dealing with separation and its resultant anxiety and dealing with conflicting values. Attempting to synthesize these personal challenges into some formal structure requires a great investment of energy. It is important to understand that this is a period of great potentially positive change but it is also a period of more intense person conflict and anxiety.”
How you can help them with this part of their transition:
1) Give them / send them care packages, letters, etc. supporting them on their decision to go to college. Reaffirm that they are making a great choice in continuing their education.
2) Go visit their campus with them. Have them show you around the great place they are investing themselves in. This joins both of their lives, their lives at home and at school.
3) Ask about their involvements and friends at school. This lets them know that there are a lot of ways to connect with new friends and new experiences without losing their connection to home!
